This from by Clairborne Williams Wilde:
Not too long ago, the very phrase Gifted & Talented made me cringe, with its aura of specialness and superiority. When my older daughter, Night Owl (now 6) was in pre-K, the option wasn’t even on our radar; we were too busy trying to figure out a few kinks with her that, as it turned out, added up to a learning disability. Night Owl detested anything that smacked of testing, taking a distract-and-evade approach each time she felt examined; the process would have been painful for her, and unfair.

Enter the second child. As any parent of multiple kids knows, you can pretty much count on being thrown for a loop by the second–just when you thought you had it all figured out with the first.

Night Owl’s younger sister, Leia, has always been precocious, teaching herself skills before it occurred to us she might be ready. Before she turned four, she had figured out how to read, just by eavesdropping while we worked with her sister. She loves to be quizzed and to master new skills. But I refused to let testing for a gifted & talented program enter my mind. We have an excellent school, PS 29, right across the street, one that has been a wonderful community, a place of growth for both girls, and the source of many friendships. For the most part, children of all abilities receive rich learning experiences; I know parents who have transferred their children out of gifted and talented programs and into PS 29 (which doesn’t have one.)

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